Book Review: Asking For It by Louise O’Neill

Book Review: Asking For It by Louise O'Neill

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I reviewed Louise O’Neill’s Only Ever Yours in August and put Asking For It straight on the top of my TBR. I knew it was going to be difficult, powerful and much-needed even before I started. It’s the perfect choice for my book club because we’re all sure to have a lot to say.

Asking For It is about what happens to eighteen-year-old student Emma O’Donovan after she is raped at a party by a group of boys on the school football team. She doesn’t understand what’s happened to her, until photos of that night are shared on Facebook. I thought Asking For It was going to be straightforward, but Louise O’Neill makes Emma an unlikeable character. She’s vain, self-centred, hurtful and judgemental. She’s not someone you would want to know, let alone be friends with. Most – sadly, not all – people would be outraged to discover that a boy had attacked an ‘innocent’ young girl on her way home, especially if she was in a private school uniform; if she was covered up. But what if she was wearing a short dress? What if she was drunk? What if she was over 18? What if she made a move first? Would we say she was asking for it? This is what Louise O’Neill wants to fight against.

I knew Asking For It was going to be a difficult read, but I also knew that it was extremely important that I read it. Asking For It addresses so many aspects of our lives that are often left unquestioned. It tackles how awful and judgemental people can be  towards each other, even when we as readers can see who’s in the right and feel it should be evident. How people struggle to understand consent and what exactly constitutes rape, especially as Emma herself doesn’t realise she’s been raped until the teacher suggests it. I thought it was interesting to see the portrayal of social media and traditional media, both shown as a tool for abuse and as a tool to give people a voice. Support for rape victims on social media seems wonderful and essential. But if you’re the victim, it can be intrusive having people tell your story for you, and this isn’t something that had ever occurred to me. Would I want everyone talking about me, even if what they were saying was supportive?

Asking For It will make you angry, and rightly so. Louise O’Neill doesn’t shy away from reality and, as with Only Ever Yours, doesn’t tie up Asking For It with a happily ever after. Perhaps, instead of arguing about which classics should be taught in schools, we should be arguing that Asking For It should be taught alongside them. Even after so many years of education – from school to college to university – I have never within education participated in a conversation about rape. This must change. Let’s talk.

“I cannot remember, so those photos and those comments have become my memories”.

Published: 3rd September 2015 (UK) 5th April 2016 (US)
Publisher: Quercus
Pages: 352

Books On My TBR / Autumn 2015

22 thoughts on “Book Review: Asking For It by Louise O’Neill

  1. I want to read this, the subject is interesting and deeply sad.

  2. Only ever yours* isnt ?

  3. This sounds amazing. Defiantly going on my Dream Reading List. Thanks!

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  5. I’m loving all the issues books these days are started to tackle. Along with What We Left Behind by Robin Talley, I believe Asking For It sounds like a book that definitely needs to be included in school curriculums for students to study!

  6. I so want to read this book now!!! Great review 🙂 🙂

  7. Excellent review! I agree – Asking For It is a very challenging read, but also a very important one.

  8. I finished reading Asking For It this morning and I have been thinking about it ever since. I totally agree with you that this book should be read in schools. The issue of consent is one that we need all need to be talking about! Reading this book made me so angry. Her parents were so awful!

    I haven’t read Only Ever Yours but I am going to as soon as I can. Louise O’Neill is such an important writer! And brave.

  9. I loved, admired and hated this book all at once. She is such a great writer and the central character really highlights the assumptions some make. I wish this book didn’t need to exist but it is brilliant.

  10. I can’t read these king of books (personally) but I am immensely glad that they get written and that you had the strength to read it. It sounds like an amazing book and a worthwhile read for not only YAers or teenagers, but people of all ages.

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